Sex after baby?


I'm four months post-partum and my husband and I have been back in the saddle since I got the okay. But insertion hurts! We've used coconut oil as lube for years, but I'm wondering if maybe it's too thin? I had a pretty gnarly second-degree tear, but I feel pretty well-healed in general. I love our sex life, but it's hard to get super worked up when the first ten minutes hurt! Any recommendations?


It takes time to heal. Even though the skin is stitched up and healed. That skin isnt as stretchy as it used to be. You can try a thicker lube but it's best to just ease into it.

I found that getting it from behind hurts.

After awhile it will feel better. I promise!

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Amber Hoffman

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