Girlfriend [26] doesn't appear to have any sexual fantasies or desires, and appears to need me [m26] to do everything. She also isn't super excited about sex in general.

My girlfriend and I have been living together for 3 years or so, and we've been dating for 4. I love her very much and our sex life is... okay. Truthfully, I'd like to see her with more drive. We have sex on average 3 to 5 times a month, sometimes more, sometimes less. I would prefer at LEAST twice a week. I don't think that's expecting too much. The issue is that we do mostly the same thing every time. Sometimes with foreplay, sometimes without, we have sex for a little while, and then I get on top (if I'm not there already) and use penis and our vibrator to make her cum.

I have some mental and emotional blocks when it comes to sex, and I'd appreciate some advice on how to overcome them...

I've been lurking on this site for some time now, and I know what an amazing community this is, so I was hoping that you lovely people might be able to help me. I was also curious if anyone else had an experience like mine. Sorry for the novel...

Gf went off pill for some health reasons, she hates condoms. What can we do?

My gf had to get off the pill for some health reasons. (she is doing much better!) but we haven't found a way to have safe enjoyable sex. She really dislikes condoms. At least the standard ribbed durex/Trojan ones we have.

Since we really can't afford to have a child, we've remained abstinent. But it's driving us crazy!

She might be willing to try other condoms but I'm not sure what to buy other than the standard super market type.

Strap-on Experience/Suggestions?

Hello all, I'm seeing someone new and he has shared with me his interest in having me use a strap on with him. I'm totally up for trying this out and have been on the receiving end of anal sex plenty of times so I kind of know what I'm doing, but I wanted to know if anyone else has done this with their partners before? If so, what strap-on do you use/which do you like? What features should I be looking out for when it comes to my comfort wearing it as well as his?

Nervous about sex without a condom

19 year old girl here. I should rephrase: I'm nervous about him finishing inside me.

I've been dating my current boyfriend (also 19) for about a year now and we've been having pretty consistent, lovely sex. I went on the birth control pill a few months ago and, after a bit, we felt comfortable having sex sans condom, but I would always ask that he pull out and finish on me or in my mouth.

Learning to say no?

Hi All, I'm having a bit of a struggle, and hope I might be able to get some advice from you all. I want to preface that I am in counseling, but counselors don't typically give advice so here I am. I have a feeling I know where my difficulties in saying "no" come from, and I'm working on them.

Pain pain pain!

I'm a 19 y/o F with the problem of having a small vagina. At least, that's what I think is the issue. I never have a problem with being wet, but when I have sex with pretty much any sized guy, I feel this intensely nasty pain (feels like it's coming from my cervix/internal pain) when they thrust in deep. I have been with a guy that didn't hurt and it was fabulous, so I know it isn't just sex by itself.


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