So the title pretty much says it all... The conventional wisdom is that quitting smoking is great for your libido. It had the opposite effect on me. I'm a 36 year old male and stopped smoking 11 days ago, from a one pack a day habit. Can anyone advise?
Let's face it. Due to the popularity of BDSM themed romance novels like E.L. James' Fifty Shades Of Grey or Sylvia Day's The Crossfire Series, many women are now becoming fans of BDSM.
This has been plaguing me since I had my first serious relationship. Before that, I thought that because I wasn’t completely attracted to my partner, I couldn’t feel the same type of pleasure that I get when I pleasure myself. The feeling I get when I’m making out is niceeeeeeee, and I crave more of it; but nowhere near the sexy, raunchy, mind-blowing feeling I get when I achieve an orgasm by myself. Why is this, and how can I solve it?
I don't have the heart to just come out and say, "I don't want to swallow because I hate the taste." I don't even want to catch it in my mouth anymore, because if I spit it somewhere, I can still taste it as it goes over my tongue. It literally makes me cringe (and then gag) if I taste it anymore.
In all honesty, I HATE blowjobs and everything about them. Taste, smell, the sensation of something being shoved down my throat, etc. However, I suck it up and do it for my SO. I have never refused and even offer to do it often, but he never reciprocates. He has done it (properly) maybe twice, and then only for about 5 seconds. I shave and keep clean to make it better, but I quit asking because he puts so little effort in it that it isn't worth it.
For a bit of backstory, for her very first time, she was raped and she told me she could never achieve an orgasm easily ever and I think the two have something to do with one another. I can make her cum, but I have to go down on her for 30-45 minutes first. and even then I have to do a bunch of extra stuff I'm not used to doing. Eating pussy used to be a treat for me, but now it's more of a chore because I have to finger her and lick her and basically stimulate both holes and her clit for a really long time before I can get her off.
I have always been a sexual being. I love sex, love my partner. Within the past 10 months sex started to get... uncomfortable. My sex drive started to drop, and as of late, sex actually hurts. Any time pressure hits my cervix I get some kind of pain, and it's usually a kind of cramping pain that encompasses the upper internal organ area. Orgasms intensify the pain. Anal orgasms with no vaginal penetration results in pain from the same area.
I'm seriously looking for any advice here. Cream, or a dry shave? Are safety razors the right approach? Is there something gentler? Is it just better to get some small trimming scissors and do this the tedious way?
Recently, my boyfriend and I started getting sexually active. After being together for a month, we decided to try oral sex. This is both our first time doing so, so with that we were both pretty nervous. Last week was our first time trying and after some foreplay I ask him if he's hard. He says no so we try to get it up again. After some more foreplay, he still isn't hard. This isn't usually like him, as he'll get hard just from the smallest things like me bending over and such. He started getting frustrated and didn't understand why he wasn't getting up.
We've all read the "I have a scar, would you still date me?" threads, but I want the other perspective. I have a large scar on my stomach. It's about 11 cm long (sorry Americans) and varying widths all the way down. It's kinda jagged, like a lightning bolt. It goes right down the middle, so my belly button is messed up too. I also have a horizontal scar, about 3ish cm, right next to it. I'm otherwise attractive, I think (crosses fingers), but this scar is recent and I'm not used to it.