Are You A Sex Addict?

True Confessions: Are You A Sex Addict?

Thu, 11/08/2012 - 00:32 -- zena

Many people know of this kind of addiction but not many know how to know if someone is a sex addict or not. It is hard to understand what goes on in the minds of addicts out there but there are many reasons for addiction. Sex addiction might not sound like a serious condition but in fact, it is. Many people just do not know it. Most sex addicts are either in denial or they do not want to found out by everyone. Women who are sex addicts are scared to be called a slut, a whore, a harlot or anything else degrading. Men however are not so afraid of that.

Jenna (not her real name) is a 25 year old working as a librarian in a local library. During the day, her tight bun, her conservative clothes and her thick framed eyeglasses would fool you. She doesn't look like a sex addict at all but that's when you're wrong. At night, Jenna either finds release by watching porn and if that wasn't enough, she'd go to bars to find someone to have a one night stand with. She has been through many relationships and in the end, she just cheats on them. The men in her life leave her because of her infidelity without knowing about her real problem. Jenna says that she goes back to her sex addiction despite realizing how bad she has fallen the next day, all because she craves the feeling of ecstasy in the arms of another man. That feeling however ends after orgasm. She then feels devastated all over again. Visiting porn websites can be painful for her progress. Even just a simple peek to one can lead back to more disastrous results. Jenna wants to help herself out but at times, she doesn't want to let go of the ecstasy that she gets from her addiction. If Jenna doesn't seek professional help, she will continue going down the downward spiral until she can't take anymore.

Melissa (not her real name) is a married woman. She has been married for 2 years and her husband has gotten suspicious of her late meetings at work with her co-worker. She has always been promiscuous and has been lying to her husband for 6 months. She has been sleeping with her co-worker secretly and has been regretting every minute of it. Melissa is addicted to sex because whenever she does it with someone, she feels more loved than ever however, when the sex ends, she realizes that she is nothing more but a slave to her desire. The man beside her doesn't really love her but is just using her for the pleasure that she is freely offering him. She has admitted her condition to her husband and luckily, her husband has been understanding to her. She is now in a rehabilitation center to recover from her addiction. She goes to counseling sessions with his husband weekly and she has been sober from sex for a long time. Unlike Jenna, Melissa was lucky enough to have an understanding husband to be there for her when she needs it. Now, when she feels upset, she talks to her friends and her husband and cry about it. In the end, she calms down eventually. She admits that her addiction will never be cured but that doesn't mean that it cannot be avoided. She is ready to become a better person for her husband and for their newborn child.

James (not his real name) is a bartender. He loves the night life and because he works in a bar, it is easier for him to meet new women every night. He is not exactly that attractive but he knows his way with women. He has been in and out of relationships and he has admitted to be never good at it. He has slept with different women without even remembering their names. Now, 5 years after all the partying, he wants to change for the better. He has met someone that he has been seeing for 6 months and he wants to be faithful to her. Unfortunately, his job and work environment is filled with temptation. Many women continue to hit on him and he finds it difficult to resist their charms. He is afraid to let her know about his past and he doesn't want her to know about his addiction. James has finally sought help and in the end has revealed his past to his girlfriend. Although she was disgusted at first, she eventually realized that she should give him a chance. They are now living together in an apartment far from the bar where James works for.

What exactly is sex addiction?

Nobody really knows as to where sex addiction begins and why people do it specifically. All addicts have different reasons for getting hooked. What exactly is sex addiction? It is described as a sexually related activity which affects your life in a destructive way. Those who suffer from behaviors like excessive masturbation, pornography, anonymous hookups or standard affairs actually are in danger of letting these take over their lives. Physical symptoms include intense cravings and the loss of self control. In the later stages, comes dependence and compulsion. While mental symptoms include obsession, denial and illusion that everything is under control. For addicts, they fail to realize that their condition has already progressed until the effects are already too much. They deny the facts that could destruct their lives because they want more of what gave them a temporary form of high. This could mean using most of their money on porn sites, going to bars every night to look for one night stands, trolling the internet for sex with strangers and even risking relationships just because of meaningless yet sinful affairs.

Some believe that those who are addicted to sex actually grew up in unruly households where their parents didn't love them or perhaps they have been abused as children. Unfortunately, not all sex addicts come from such backgrounds. It is hard to define what is normal from an addiction anymore these days. There are shows that glorify threesomes and one night stands. It is now common to have friends with benefits. Porn can now easily be accessed through the internet anonymously. There are even some characters on TV who show how they enjoy sex so much that it controls their lives. Of course, those shows do not show the reality of sex addiction. It never shows the bad effects it has on people. Sex addiction is a serious condition which should be treated at once. A sex addict should learn how to acknowledge his/her problem. This is the only way to start a life back to normality. Do not let your sex addiction take over your life. You should take responsibility for yourself, your behavior, your actions and most of all your life. The addiction can be curbed. You just need to be willing to change for the better and let go of what gives you temporarily happiness.

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Zena Alethea Teofilo

Zena is an online English teacher. She enjoys writing and drawing during her free time. She writes many different articles and stories every day. Some are erotic in nature while others are informative. Writing for this website has opened her to a new world of possibilities. She is happy to share her thoughts and opinions about many things in life. She just hopes that many people are satisfied with her work for she aims to please.